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soul treat

I received this essay in my e-mail (thanks Maricar!), and felt a sacred obligation to share it with you. I have a lot of things in mind that I think would be great for our couch chat today, but I feel that nothing in my intended blabbering will measure up to what this has to say. I think this is perfect for your own soul spa, and if even just one reader will be deeply touched, and thereafter move on to close a cycle needed to be closed after reading this, I feel as though I have done my good deed for the day.

I hope you savor it, enjoy it, love it, live it.

Paulo Coelho

“ One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on
staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the
meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles,
shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters
is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you
leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting
friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why
this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until
you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in
your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude
will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your
husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will
be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and
they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even
when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed
will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons
that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night
relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least
intention of coming back. Things pass, and the best we can do is to let
them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy
souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate
the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a
manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts –
and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other
memories to take their place. Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself
from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win
and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect
your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to
be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same
program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from
a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are
broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions
that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.” Before a new
chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what
has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you
could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a
habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult,
but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply
because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record,
clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change
into who you are.”


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